What amazes me about SQV is that there are frequent differences of opinion amongst the membership (some quite significant), and yet there is civility and an unspoken standard of “agree to disagree” when an impasse is encountered. There are exceptions of course, but by and large we don’t tend to throw punches or yield to knee-jerk reactions at first blush.
“Discretion is the better part of valor” — Shakespeare
…and SQV emulates that, IMO.
Courtesy does not dimish courage.
Those who label words as violence do so with the sole purpose of justifying violence against words.