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Now we know what's on Schumer's mind all day and night:
He DID NOT SAY "insurrection."
He didn't even garble the word.
What he said is as clear as day.
Schumer was trying (ahem) so hard to NOT say "erection" that he messed up Trump's name, and that threw him off, which made him say what he kept saying during rehearsals.
"Don't say 'erection.' Don't say 'erection.' Don't say 'erection,'" he was thinking. He got distracted and said what he subconsciously wanted to say the whole time that Trump was officially in office.
I've been doing as much writing as possible as I move stuff into my new house.
Most of it is condensing information into charts that take up half a page or one page.
I have YouTube documentaries on as I do this.
Since I'm moving stuff around in my parents' house--where my Vegas brother lived for two years--I'm finding that he did EXACTLY what he criticized my parents for doing:
Scribbling little notes and tucking them here and there all over the house.
So far I've had to throw away a hundred pounds of this junk.
So he spent eight years telling me how he was free and a new person; he waits until our new house in Vegas is finished before snatching away my opportunity to get out of here; and it turns out that he's the most like our parents of ANY of my siblings.
So it's a real slog getting through this.
BUT.
I'm not pathological. Damaged, yes. Pathological, no.
I'm not a ridiculous hoarder who collects tons and tons of useless crap that just takes up room.
I don't have stuff spread all over the house, long gone from my memory.
I don't have garages and warehouses packed with things that bring me no pleasure whatsoever, but I refuse to throw them out because I'm afraid of...something.
And I don't say that Donald John Trump incites erections.
It's a world of nutters.
Look in the mirror.
You're almost certainly NOT one of them.
And THAT is a massive victory. Refusing the siren song of madness takes character. Strength. Courage.
We all have our scars.
But if we live lives of not harming others or ourselves, we've won.
THAT is why we're here. To learn altruism and benign self-preservation.
As I work, I listen to documentaries on serial killers, spree killers, and members of organized crime.
WHY?
To know my enemy.
To know the people in government.
Since I have to stay here in California now, I have to know who I'm up against.
They're almost always caught.
They trip themselves up, the way the Democrats are doing as we speak.
There's much more air traffic flying over my house, on its way to the Nevada National Security Site.
"NNSS provides a premier test bed for Unmanned Aerial System technologies."
Among other things.
To conclude, those who are not pathological always defeat the pathological.
That's why it's vital to always choose sanity.
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@Good4TheGANDER I know this tune! 😆 Coworkers sang this decades ago.
Is this from a movie or comedy routine?
@ThomasWic
Jerry Samuels, an audio engineer released the novelty record “They’re Coming to Take Me Away, Ha Haaaa!” in 1966 under the name Napoleon XIV.
The single hit No. 3 on the Billboard Hot 100 chart.
“those nice young men in their clean white coats.”😂
@Good4TheGANDER @KarmaMasterAll I remember this!!🤣
@KarmaMasterAll @Good4TheGANDER @ThomasWic I know it from listening to Dr Demento. Explains my sense of humor.
@ThomasWic
It's easier to be a good guy. You only have to keep one ball in the air.
@ThomasWic At first I found the phrase "choose sanity" to be a bit jarring, but upon reflection it fits. Not that all insanity is chosen, but as C.S. Lewis said, we tend to become what we practice.
@haithabu @ThomasWic and there is also such a thing as drug induced psychosis.
@haithabu @pma05 @ThomasWic Spot on. Some have broken choice makers from both nature and nurture. They can change their behavior, unfortunately after a great deal of destruction. They can recalibrate: allow advisement, treatment, respect boundaries, practice total honesty.
Had 2 close cases which caused great suffering-we lost hope. They didn’t change because of the suffering of others. When their lives became painful for themselves they did. I also think physical maturity helps. So painful.
@haithabu @pma05 @ThomasWic Better late than never, We count ourselves greatly blessed. It isn’t perfect but it’s manageable. They work at it and will accept counsel when we them doing something unwise or when they are feeling out of control. I agonize for families of people who don’t turn it around and for their victims.
@lucy_eyelesbarrow @haithabu @pma05 @ThomasWic
I used to think that if I just tried my best to head someone off from a cliff, talked to them until I was blue in the face, pointed out all kinds of facts and consequences, that I could turn them around.
Now I'm old enough to know that I have no control, had no control, and it's not my job to have control except over myself.
Personal pain and bad consequences are much better guarantors of wisdom than I'll ever be.
@haithabu @lucy_eyelesbarrow @pma05 @ThomasWic
Absolutely. Hard to watch them court disaster when they didn't have to, and it's always expensive as hell to help them get through what they brought on themselves. And us, because we love them and made a commitment for life when they were born.
And then there are the children that they have before they've finished maturing themselves.....
There's the worst heartbreak.
@haithabu @lucy_eyelesbarrow @pma05 @ThomasWic
My condolences and congratulations together. It's been tough to get to this stage in our lives and have to scrimp, plan every expense and figure out how to cover the unexpected.
It's very character building. I've now got enough character to put up a major construction.
If I could only find the funds...
@haithabu @lucy_eyelesbarrow @pma05 @ThomasWic
As another "character filled" friend and I muttered to each other, "If only they had listened..."
So we tried. You know how well that goes. Disaster plainly looms on the near horizon, but the one heading for it at speed is looking backwards.
My character has been built through my own hard choices and bad decisions. Everyone else will have to go and do likewise. It's not something you can lend, buy or borrow. S'what makes it so valuable.
@lucy_eyelesbarrow @haithabu @pma05
I didn't necessarily know I had some of those thoughts until I put them into words here. And they were prompted into being by the shared thoughts of others here.
This is a great place to be fully human, to be honest in all the ways you can, and to share so that others know they are never alone in their difficulties, we've all had them, all had to learn how to incorporate pain into a lesson instead of an eternal sorrow. We learn, we let it go and we live.
@haithabu @janis @pma05 @ThomasWic So glad to hear that. It’s nice to be able to let down your guard down a bit and feel like you can get close to them again even if it’s not the same.❤️🙏
@haithabu @lucy_eyelesbarrow @pma05 @ThomasWic
That is so profoundly true. And it's what has made this past year a real killer for so many who had problems to begin with.
It's great to hear that you are remaking a better relationship with your daughter. It's, in my experience, always two steps forward and one back.
Until that sunny day when you realize that it's been three steps and none backward.
I always find myself holding my breath at that point.
@haithabu @janis @pma05 @ThomasWic I kind of wish we could live together but there’s no way I could ever live with her again. The past six years was brutal.
@lucy_eyelesbarrow @haithabu @pma05 @ThomasWic
There comes a time when you have to think of your own sanity and personal health, whatever that entails.
When you've kicked your own ass often enough by choosing someone else's needs over your won, you learn to quit doing it. Even if that means you are plagued by regret or guilt.
They fade with time and practice.
@lucy_eyelesbarrow @haithabu @pma05 @ThomasWic
And it's never the same. But, from my perspective, you are meeting them on more equal footing. You don't trust them as unreservedly, but you can start to see them as adults, finally, who have learned something worthwhile.
You know, the same stuff you tried to tell them years earlier. They did not have the experience or "spiritual eyesight" to recognize the truth then.
Now, hopefully, they are starting to.
@janis @haithabu @pma05 @ThomasWic Now my beautiful daughter has beautiful toddler girl and hubby she’s learning about the other side of the mother-daughter perspective. I’ve always said that some kids, if you tell them the oven is hot, they respond “okay, thanks for warning me, yes mama”and will never touch it. With other kids, if you tell him the oven is hot they’ll open the door and climb right in. They have to get burned before they learn. She’s a wonderful mom though and is working on it.
@lucy_eyelesbarrow @haithabu @pma05 @ThomasWic
it's such a relief when peace sets in!
It's long been my thought that, while I may have given birth to my child, it was my child that gave birth to a mother. Going through all that learning how to be a mom entails is hard, on the job, 24/7 dedication and observation.
My baby didn't know he could walk until he did. I didn't know I could be that responsible and unselfish until I was . We both had to work at it.
@janis @haithabu @pma05 @ThomasWic Yes. I had no idea how much strength it would take. My first child made me a mother. But my second turned me into a Mutha🤣😅😲(sorry, sometimes I have to laugh at the wild absurdity of it all to keep sane).
@lucy_eyelesbarrow @haithabu @pma05 @ThomasWic
Why, yes indeed, I recognize that "wild absurdity" thing. That feeling that your laughter is a little manic and your next move might be to bite the head off a bat....
But then sanity returns when you realize it's suppertime and if you're not gettin' jiggy with some pots and pans, no one else is going to do it.
My one and only child was efficient enough to make me both kinds of mother. 😍 😬
Age has homogenized me.
@lucy_eyelesbarrow @haithabu @pma05 @ThomasWic
By the way, on the "sit down and have a drink" thing, you can join me in my current libation. I'm downing a couple of Alka Seltzer Pluses, the fizzy variety. Cheers!
Two weeks ago we had more ice than I've ever seen anywhere and 9 degrees, this week it's allergy season.
Life comes at you fast in Tennessee.
@janis @haithabu @pma05 @ThomasWic I feel you. I’m in Oklahoma. There are days when we get all that in one day. Psychotic weather and the Bradford pears are beginning to bed so that’ll be fun. Always looking at the upside, LOL! But the temps here are gorgeous.
@janis @haithabu @pma05 @ThomasWic Bless my third child, he is redeeming the experience of having a teenager. He’s absolutely wonderful. But the situation sorely strained her relationship with her brothers. They’ll always feel anger and distrust from what she put us all through. But they adore their niece and she’s a great mother so she is redeeming herself somewhat. They don’t understand how she got so sick so fast and they think she had more control over it than I think she did. BPD is awful
@janis @haithabu @pma05 @ThomasWic it took me all of last year to slow down my personal spin out from the experience. That on top of the political pandemic stresses. I didn’t realize how much damage it is afflicted on me or a personal level. Having two other children raised exactly the same as she was but who turned out well has been my main source of validation as a parent, that I wasn’t at fault. We mothers are so hard on ourselves about our children. Your child is lucky to have you.
@lucy_eyelesbarrow @janis @haithabu I think we should remove @ThomasWic from this discussion, I doubt he has time to follow it.
@lucy_eyelesbarrow @janis @haithabu I have enjoyed following it, for many personal reasons but wasn't sure and he gave no indication that he was.
@pma05 @lucy_eyelesbarrow @haithabu
I take your point, but it's usually interesting to see where a remark one makes gives rise to so many other ideas and conversations.
@janis @lucy_eyelesbarrow @haithabu That's true and I didn't think of that.
@pma05 @janis @haithabu 🙏If I’d not experienced it, I’d not be able to understand what he’s endured with his siblings. It is because of that that I can appreciate the choices he’s made to protect himself physically, financially and mentally. I’m not the only one he’s helped by his thoughts re protecting oneself from family instead of self immolating. It is hard when people you esteem and appreciate, even from afar, don’t have the support system they deserve. He’s got a lot going on.
@lucy_eyelesbarrow @janis @haithabu He has helped me also. I have a harsh background, I was beaten bloody frequently, sexually abused, and just all around treated like dirt. Then at 14 was captured by some thugs held for a long time and tortured, so I also struggle with stuff and am quite unsocial. when I go out in public, one of the first things I do is plot a violent strategy to protect my family or myself if necessary. so I kind of identify with him, but he had it harder.
@lucy_eyelesbarrow @haithabu @pma05
He's had more than a few days when he would agree with your last statement. As to having any other kids as a source of validation, have I told you about my grandchildren?
👍
@lucy_eyelesbarrow @haithabu @pma05
With regard to their privacy, I won't give any details. Except to say that raising a granddaughter was every bit as much fun as I imagined it might be. Her brother is a delight.
Grandparenting is both more intense and more detached than parenthood. You know how fleeting the stages are, so you enjoy them with your whole heart. And you know how few things are worth fighting about, so you let the little things go. Grandkids and grandparents are natural allies.
@janis @lucy_eyelesbarrow @haithabu @pma05 being a grandma is the best thing ever. Their success are so sweet & their setbacks are harder to take. I have three grandkids who are young adults now. We do a lot together and I savor every moment
@janis @haithabu @pma05 Against a common enemy🤣🤣 I jest! My daughter and I bond regularly over motherhood. She’s starting to look at the destructive culture I’d shielded her from and she’s worried about her choices she’ll make. (They’re young w friends dying of addiction, tinder hookups, getting abortions, and suiciding😔). She thought I was overprotective but now understands. I agree with you about appreciating the added perspective, appreciation of fleeting time and closeness that occurs.
@lucy_eyelesbarrow @haithabu @pma05
My son has his own teenagers now. My revenge is complete!
@janis @lucy_eyelesbarrow @haithabu @pma05 This is so very true. We have our grandbabies thru weekends and occasional weekdays, and it's nothing like primary parenting. The stages and changes they go thru as the days pass, are truly remarkable. It was such a heart burst when our Gracie first said popy and nana and reach her hands out to hold us. And those smiles. Oh the laughter and smiles.
@jevan @lucy_eyelesbarrow @haithabu @pma05
I know what you mean about the smiles and hugs. First time the baby smiles at you, it's all "You want the deed to the farm? The keys to our best truck?"
Who says grandparents spoil their grandkids!
@dl46g @haithabu @lucy_eyelesbarrow @pma05 @ThomasWic
Thank you. And back at you.
@haithabu @janis @pma05 @ThomasWic Yes. Many mental illnesses don’t strongly evidence until late puberty and 20s. It’s shocking as hell. At the time it starts it’s seems normal teenage rebellion and selfishness. Social media undermines parents. And “just take away their phone” is incredibly difficult. They access them through old Nintendo’s or psp games. Video game consoles. They’ll find old itouch, iPhones or pads or kindles and use them. They need computers for school. Smart TVs, etc.😠😔
@haithabu @pma05 @ThomasWic
That last sentence is so true, so on point, that it makes my neck hairs stand on end.
Our entire culture not only encourages self-centeredness, it demands it, rewards it, refuses to condemn it. Social media, MSM, academia, they're all guilty as hell.
@ThomasWic
You chose wisely.
Those who don’t?
https://youtu.be/hnzHtm1jhL4